Friday, June 14, 2013


So, in our last post we mentioned two more "Fs" to add to the mix of "Fight, Freeze or Flight" and they were "Fronting" and "Freezing." 

As promised I'm going to go over them both in a little more detail.

Fronting is also known by some as posturing and it amounts to putting on a show designed to intimidate the other side so they back down and leave.

Wild animals have been doing this for years.  In the picture below is a harmless Australian frilly lizard but to look at the pic you'd think he was a spawn of Satan not to be messed with.  I used to catch these things as pets growing up and, once you call their bluff and pick them up, they've got nothing.  They do look intimidating to the uninitiated though.

Humans do exactly the same thing in response to potential altercations.  You'll encounter chest thumping, loud vocals, spitting, hissing, threats of impending doom, the jutting of the chin and the chest, stamping and walking forward quickly et alia with no actual punches being thrown.

Here's a classic example in the picture below...notice the jutting chin I mentioned above (really bad idea by the way as it's a hell of a target to stick in someone's face.)

In many cases it works.  The other side, usually fairly inexperienced or not very brave themselves, will assume the posturing/fronting is actually backed up by some powerful mojo and will make themselves scarce.

Sometimes, of course, it doesn't and the bluff gets called.  That can only go one of two ways.  Either the posturing one wins, or he loses.

Not all fronting has to involve appearing to know how to fight.  Threatening to call the police for example can be a form of fronting.  We're laying down a big enough threat in the hope that we'll intimidate the opposition so that they decide discretion is the better part of valor.

Should it be part of your toolbox is probably the bigger question here and the answer is "it depends."  If you can fight and you're using it to dissuade somebody so you don't have to actually engage in combat (usually a bad idea) then I'd say yes. If it's because you don't have anything to back it up but you think by appearing to be a bad ass you'll be left alone then I'd say no.

One final a lot of cases this type of behavior is being used by the aggressor to work himself into a frenzy and build up his courage enough to launch his assault so's not always used for the purpose of bluffing.

next post we'll talk about "Folding." 

Monday, June 10, 2013

The Five "Fs"

Listen to anyone talk about self defense or emergency situations long enough and you'll hear the term "fight or flight."  What they're referring to are your choices in an emergency which are to either stand your ground "FIGHT" or run away "FLIGHT."

For a while now some better informed instructors have added "freeze" to the mix which is also a viable option.  Freezing can happen because you have no trained responses to relate to or it can be a voluntary choice to avoid detection by someone or something for example.

I covered all three of these in my book "How To Be Your Own Bodyguard" but, in my never ending quest for more information, I'd be remiss if I didn't add two more recent discoveries to the list.

They are "Fronting" and "Folding"

In the next couple of blog posts I'll go over them in more detail but in a nutshell "fronting" is posturing or bluffing in the hope to intimidate the opposition enough that they change their minds about fighting you and "folding" is submitting to them i.e. curling up and copping a beating hoping at some point they'll tire of it and leave you alone.

Just like the other three they can be effective options given the right circumstances and that's what I'll talk about at length over the next couple of posts.

Stay tuned...